Nicole Alexandra

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7 Ways To Have A Special Valentine’s Day At Home

Here are seven special ways to have the best Valentine’s Day at home. No fancy expensive dinners or high expectations. Just low-key ways to make yourself, your significant other, and your kids feel the love on Valentine’s Day.

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I think Valentine’s Day comes at the perfect time of year! The holidays have passed and we’re a little over a month into our new year resolutions and goals. The cold of winter weather is still upon us and the nights are long.

Just when it feels as if there’s not much to look forward to, Valentine’s Day is here! People are filled with love and happiness, there are red and pink hearts everywhere and it can be a day that’s filled with love.

But I’ll admit not every Valentine’s Day has been something to celebrate for me, and in fact kind of a day I dreaded whether I had an S.O. or not. 

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It wasn’t until last year after doing a lot of inner work, healing, and self-development that I decided to view Valentine’s Day differently.

I used to have expectations from my S.O. and if they didn’t meet them, I was disappointed on Valentine’s Day. As if this day marked their love for me and all the other 364 days of the year didn’t count. The pressure society puts on us, women especially, for what we should be expecting on Valentine’s Day, needs to change. 

So I decided last year that I would use that day to celebrate myself as well as the ones I love. And honesty it has been a game changer for me and this holiday that I know so many of us have mixed feelings about.

Valentine’s Day can also be about celebrating our kids. In fact, when I was growing up, my mom made it a point to celebrate my brother and me every Valentine’s Day. She really made us feel like a million bucks. It was her simple gestures and thoughtful planning that always made me feel special.

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And ever since I had my son, I have made it a point to continue my mom’s tradition and make him feel special on Valentine’s Day too.

Below I share some simple ways to celebrate not only your S.O. but your kids and most importantly, yourself this Valentine’s Day.

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Special Ways to Have the Best Valentine’s Day at Home:

1. Flowers, Flowers, Flowers!

I know this seems so simple and straight forward but don’t wait to see if you get flowers this Valentine’s Day. Instead, buy yourself flowers. I can confirm it really takes the pressure off if you’re “expecting” them from someone else.

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Bonus tip I started years ago; buy yourself weekly flowers when you grocery shop. You can get fairly inexpensive ones and you’re worth it. I love having fresh flowers on my kitchen island at all times, it makes me happy and it feels good to do something special for myself on a regular basis.

2. Heart-Shaped Pancakes

This idea can be for you, your kids, or the whole family! Most everyone loves pancakes and it’s quite easy to make them into hearts.

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I first made these when my husband and I were newlyweds and while I think he could care less, I loved them! They are so cute and festive! Of course, I now make them for my son and he gets so excited and appreciative! You can get the best pancake recipe here.

3. Everyday Smoothie

This is a super easy idea! Turn your daily smoothie into a festive smoothie with simple heart-shaped sprinkles! Simply make your usual smoothie recipe and add red, pink, and white sprinkles on top! Bonus if the sprinkles are heart-shaped.

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4. Homemade Valentine’s Cards

Classic yet so thoughtful, a homemade Valentine’s card goes a long way. My son and I love doing arts and crafts together. As a kid, I specifically remember making homemade Valentine’s cards. There’s something about the colors and hearts that gets me in a good mood

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I also enjoy coming up with cute and sweet poems to give to my husband and son. A simple, “roses are red, violets are blue” but with your own twist is so very heartfelt.

5. Make and Decorate Muffins or Cookies Together

My son and I love to bake together and he loves decorating with frosting and sprinkles even more. There is something about mixing all the ingredients and helping that kids seem to really enjoy. Let them do most of the work frosting the cookies or muffins with red and pink frosting and decorating them with a ridiculous amount of sprinkles. Or make this easy and delicious chocolate chip blondie recipe to decorate!

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It’s a fun bonding experience and a yearly tradition to do together. My son gets so excited and proud when he points out which muffins and cookies he created. It will be messy but it’s so worth it!

6. Dollar Store Decor and Gifts for Kids

I hit up the dollar store for every holiday. They have great inexpensive holiday crafts and decorations that won’t break the bank. They also have darling small holiday gifts for kids. The gifts don’t have to be anything expensive or extravagant, it’s the thought that counts.

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My mom would set out an adorable heart-shaped box and inside would be a couple small gifts, like a bracelet and stickers. It was the surprise of the gift that made me feel special, not the gift itself. For my son, I do something similar, like a book, matchbox car, ball, or stuffed animal.

7. Date Night In

My husband and I are pros at doing date nights in. We are trying to be better about having a date outside the house every now and again but don’t underestimate staying at home for date night.

There are so many ways you can make Valentine’s day at home special. Simply a movie and take-out may be right up your alley. Or you could make it more romantic by dressing up, lighting candles, and turning on some music.

Whatever you and your S.O. are into, it’s the quiet, quality time spent between the two of you, that shows your commitment and appreciation for your relationship.

Happy Valentine’s Day Friends!

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4 Healthy Habits To Start Today

Here are some healthy habits to start so you can feel less depleted and instead, look forward to doing something for you each day.

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Healthy habits are a simple yet effective way to build consistency when it comes to your health. As a mom sometimes I can feel overwhelmed and guilty or there’s no time for me. Do you ever feel like that too? I hold myself to high standards as a mom and I strive to be the best mom I can be to my son giving him 100% of me every day. In doing that though, some days I don’t make any time for myself and this can have me feel like my tank is empty.

Creating a healthy lifestyle doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. By focusing on small simple habits that you enjoy, you’ll be more likely to maintain the for the long term. n

Today I’m going to share with you a routine so that you don’t get drained. These healthy habits to start today, will give you something to look forward to each day that’s just for you so you don’t have these major burnout moments.

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4 Healthy Habits:

1. Wake Up Early

Being the first one up in the morning is life-changing. Some days I need to sleep until my son wakes me up so I do but for the most part, I try to force myself out of bed and up before my family in the mornings. The big “why” for me is that I will get to have some time to myself. It’s a really nice and relaxing way to start my day. I drink my coffee, write in my journal, meditate, and read a few pages from my book, creating a peaceful environment all before my family wakes up.

2. Move Your Body

My son and I take our dog for a walk every day, most days we get in two walks. I’ve mentioned this in other posts, but walking out in nature is very beneficial. It clears my head, gives me those feel-good endorphins, and gets my body moving. Plus my son and dog are both getting exercise and stimulation too.

I try to fit in a workout a few days a week as well. Either pilates, yoga, or strength training. I used to operate with the all-or-nothing approach when it came to fitness but at this time in my life where being a mom is the top priority, I work out when I can fit it in. My walks however are non-negotiable.

3. Create A Weekly Meal Plan

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I’ve talked about weekly meal plans before and it’s seriously so helpful for many reasons. Planning out what we’re going to eat for the week helps me stay on a healthy path and it’s one less thing to think about. I know what I’m getting at the grocery store and I know my options for meals throughout the week. This way I’m able to make healthy choices so that I’m eating well and nourishing my body. This makes me feel good and powers me through the day.

Because let’s be real, I know most moms can relate to eating their kid’s leftovers and that ends up being your meal. Or eating junk and then not feeling well or having the energy to tackle the day. Maybe some of you can also agree, but when I don’t get enough protein I’m constantly wanting to snack. That’s why meal planning is a must-do habit for me.

4. Aim For Protein At Every Meal

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I know it’s important to get protein at each meal but it’s a struggle for me sometimes but I’m putting in the effort. On the days I do get protein at each meal I feel energized all day instead of sluggish and tired. I also feel more satisfied with my meals therefore I’m not snacking which then gives me more time for other things.

There are many sources of protein but my husband and I love eating sauteed chickpeas with onion, and they taste great by themselves or in a salad. I like adding nuts or seeds to my meals to increase my protein intake plus I like the added crunch. As well as high-protein snacks and protein powder in smoothies.

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5 Tips to Change Your Life In 30 Days

Are you looking to change your life in 30 days? If you implement these 5 tips for the next month, I guarantee your life will change for the better.

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During the summer most of us are more relaxed with our schedules, going with the flow, vacationing, etc. But when fall hits, we get back into our routines and it reminds us that the end of the year is approaching and the new year is almost here. This is a great time to go over any goals you set for this year because you still have time to check them off your list.

Accomplishing any goal takes determination, dedication, and time. We are always seeing everyone’s end goals on social media, tv, etc. Most people don’t share the effort, focus, and hard work it took for them to get there.

With the 5 tips below, I promise you can change your life for the better in as little as 30 days and if you keep at these tips, you will be well on your way to the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Here’s what you can expect if you regularly practice and incorporate these tips:

  • A healthier more positive attitude
  • More peace and happiness
  • New opportunities which can typically lead to more money
  • Deeper connections, with yourself, family, and friends

And that’s just the start…

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5 TIPS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN 30 DAYS

1. Stick To Or Create A Healthy Morning Routine

How we start our day really does make a difference in how the rest of our day will go. What I have found helpful is to start my day with gratitude, whether writing in a journal or simply saying out loud what I’m thankful for first thing in the morning. Then I pay attention to what I’m immediately putting into my body; water should always be first in my opinion. Add in any other positive things like hugging your child or pet, meditating, watching the sunrise, etc. In other words, start your day with positivity and self care.

2. Be Mindful Of What You Consume and Who You Spend Your Time With

If you want to accomplish your goals and change the direction of your life you need to get real about what you’re consuming. The news, celebrity gossip, too much social media, and a negative friend or family member, it can all affect our attitude and how we see the world. I personally don’t want this type of stuff in my energy. I rarely watch the news but I do go on social media almost every day and it’s pretty impossible not to get some bad news, gloom or sadness slipped into my scrolling and it really does impact me negatively. Limit your time with this stuff or replace it altogether with something like a book or a walk.

Also, pay attention to who you spend most of your time with. A quote I recite to myself often is, “you are who you surround yourself with”. It’s so true. Be around people that are positive and lift you up and consume info that makes you feel inspired and good about yourself and your life.

3. Clean Up Your Diet and Add Daily Movement

I am so much clearer when I am treating my body right. When I’m eating healthy, making sleep a priority, and not having a drink in the evenings, life is easier. My body craves some sort of daily movement so it is a must for me too. Walking, stretching, or exercise can greatly impact our mental and physical well-being.

When I’m not making healthy choices, I’m just not as sharp. But when I’m going on daily walks and watching what I put in my body, I am better able to focus because I feel healthy. With the end of the year approaching, it’s crunch time and if you take care of your body, you will feel better and you may just accomplish one more goal before the year is over.

4. Recognize and Celebrate Your Wins

There is something that you can be proud of accomplishing already this year. Maybe you started eating healthier, did some self-healing, became a parent, bought a house, found happiness, etc. For me, there are a few things but one is I started waking up earlier and that gave me time to finally follow my passion and start my blog. Recognize your wins, be proud of yourself and give yourself credit for how hard you worked to get to where you are today.

This goes into my next tip: to celebrate those wins and love your life the way it is right now. Go out to a celebratory dinner with your best friend, treat yourself to a coffee, or go for a walk on the beach. Share your victories with someone you love or even with yourself.

And plan things that you can look forward to in your day-to-day life like cooking a delicious dinner or going to the beach with your family. Just celebrate you and what your life looks like right now and appreciate what you’ve already done and what you already have. Our brains need that verification and gratitude.

5. Take A Look At Your Current Goals

You probably made a list of goals at the start of the year, I know I did. Now that you have recognized and celebrated your wins, you feel good and motivated. This is a great time to revisit your goals from the beginning of the year and see which ones you still want to achieve.

A book that helped my husband and me with some of our goals is The Twelve Week Year. It encourages you to reset and re-evaluate your goals every three months or twelve weeks as if it was a whole new year. This is an excellent strategy to keep you on track and hold yourself accountable so you can achieve your goals.

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11 + Must-Have Self Care Ideas For Moms

Being intentional about caring for your emotional and physical health is necessary for a healthy lifestyle. But how do you do that as a busy mom? These simple yet effective self care ideas for moms are my tried and true tips every mama needs to know about.

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Being a mama is the best, but it can also be exhausting. If you’re anything like me, you crave some alone time and some time to recharge. The saying goes, “you can’t pour from an empty cup”, and while cliche, it is so true.

Mom burnout is real. We’re wearing so many hats and our to-do lists are endless. We are taking care of everyone else’s needs often times our needs are at the end of the list. As a mama myself, it’s easy to forget to do things that nourish who I am. Self-care is vital to a healthy heart, mind, and body and is crucial to being the best mama you can be.

In this post, I have put together a simple yet effective list of small things you can realistically implement into your daily life. These tips will greatly impact your mood, well-being, and self-esteem.

Once I figured out what self-care practices fill up my cup, it was a game-changer! My healthy self-care habits have made a massive difference in my ability to cope with being pulled in so many directions daily. I’m confident that at least one of these tips will help you too.

Self-care looks different for everyone, but today I’m giving you the ultimate list of self care ideas for moms that I swear by.

If you’re a mama who is feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, and looking for something new and inspiring, then this post is for you. Once these tips become a habit, you are going to learn the importance and necessity of daily self-care.

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BEST SELF CARE IDEAS FOR MOMS:

1. Gratitude Journal

I started gratitude journaling years ago and it was life-changing for me. Focusing on what I’m grateful for each morning is a great way to start the day, an instant mood booster, and really helps to put things into perspective. I have found The Five Minute Journal to be my favorite and have recommended it to many of my family and friends. I even gifted it to my husband, mom, and best friend. Gratitude journaling in general is a great self-care idea for moms or anyone that wants to focus more on the goodness in their life.

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This journal is a must-have in my life! It has a gratitude list, a daily inspirational quote, and a spot to add daily affirmations to boost confidence and positive manifestation. Simple yet effective in improving your mental wellness, it is the exact journal I use and recommend as one of the best self-care ideas for moms.

2. Make Fancy Coffee

Take your coffee to the next level by frothing your milk of choice! Add in cinnamon and vanilla extract and revel in the luxurious feeling of a coffee shop latte at home. Over the years, my coffee has slowly transformed into what it is today. Just recently I treated myself to a milk frother and it is worth all the hype lol. For years I used a very inexpensive handheld milk frother or you could even heat your milk on the stove. This is a self-care practice I can do at home that makes me feel special and is something I enjoy.

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3. Wake Up Before Your Kids

I recently started doing this and I love it! On the days I wake up earlier, I have a much more successful day. It really does make a difference in my morning mood.

It feels amazing to be productive with my goals first thing in the morning and have some time to myself. When I’m consistent with this morning routine it makes a positive impact on my mental, emotional and physical health. Making time for myself in the morning has given me more patience, and a clearer mind. I feel more positive and peaceful, and I’m more self-aware.

My morning routine consists of gratitude journaling followed by reading a page or two out of a poetry book, then I make my coffee and work on my blog.

One of my favorite poetry books is by Yung Pueblo called Clarity and Connection. It’s deep, soul-searching, and extraordinarily beautiful.

4. Meditate

Taking a few minutes each morning to be still in your thoughts is an incredible way to care for yourself. I personally like guided meditation and there are so many free ones on youtube or meditation apps. I like that they prompt you with questions or phrases and soothing music as it helps me to stay focused.

Meditation has helped me heal past pain, visualize my ideal future and practice mindfulness. It encourages me to live more in the present moment. Intentionally being more present allows me to let go of the past and stop worrying so much about the future. It inspires me to enjoy my life and what is happening right now in this very moment.

It is an exceptional way to get rid of my anxiety, calm my mind, and become happier.

5. Daily Walks

Daily walks have been a part of my life for decades. Walking is so therapeutic for me. Being in nature has many benefits including reducing stress and improving your health. The break from technology and all the to-do’s in the home is so refreshing.

Nature is truly a gift and always has something to offer you. Fresh air, sunshine, and observing the birds, can all lift your mood.

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Walking was one of the first healthy habits I instilled in my son. We look forward to this part of our daily routine. He gets to explore, I get to de-stress and we both get exercise and the many benefits of nature.

6. Exercise

Adding 12-20 minutes or more of exercise into your routine will help you glow and gain a confidence boost! A workout always puts me in a better mood and makes me feel strong and accomplished.

Exercise has so many mental and physical health benefits. Consistent exercise will increase your energy, and improve your memory and quality of sleep. It will reduce feelings of depression and anxiety, and protect you against many chronic diseases. Plus you’re setting a great example for your little one. Making your health a priority is important and vital to being the best you.

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7. Oil-infused Epson Salt Bubble Bath

Taking a bath is a great way to decompress, have some alone time, and is a free self care idea for moms. Personally, I like to add lavender-infused Epson salt to my bath. The one I like to use is Dr. Teal’s Lavender salt. It is calming and relaxes and soothes sore muscles.

I recently bought this bamboo bath tray and I love the way it looks and holds everything I need. I like it to be as spa-like as possible to really feel pampered.

This is the bamboo bath caddy that I use and love. It’s great quality, affordable, holds everything I need, and looks elegant lying across your bathtub.

8. Take A Day Off Social Media

I do this periodically and it’s a great way to recharge. Social media is addicting and it’s supposed to be. I try to follow people/posts that are inspiring, and relatable, however, it’s difficult not to compare every now and then.

Taking a day off allows me to be more present and it breaks the addiction that can happen if we’re not careful.

9. Daily Affirmations

I started doing daily affirmations with my son when he was about two years old. I remember sharing this with my therapist and she said, how amazing, but do you practice daily affirmations for yourself? That was my wake-up call. If I want to be a good role model for my son then I need to practice what I preach.

Daily affirmations have changed the way I view myself. Affirmations are self-empowering. This positive thinking has enriched my life in many ways.

I subscribe to the I am app and it’s incredible. It’s free and alerts me with affirmations throughout the day. Taking several moments in my busy day to read something uplifting improves my mental health. I highly recommend it!

This is what the app looks like and like I said, I use the free version and it’s great!

10. High Five Yourself

This tip will take tip #9 to the next level. This idea came from Mel Robbins and if you aren’t familiar, she’s an incredible motivational speaker. I find her not only motivational but inspiring. Through research and science, she has proven that high-fiving yourself in the mirror each morning has a positive impact on the way you see yourself. I’m also reading her book, The High 5 Habit.

At first, it was uncomfortable to high-five myself, but now it has become a habit. It has proven to be an excellent way to give myself love and start my morning. Try it!

11. Have A Phone Call With Someone You Love

This could be your best friend, your mom, or any important person in your life. Check-in with them, and let them know how you’re feeling. Discuss the highs and lows of your life at the moment and feel the love between the two of you. Talking to someone that values you and that you value will enrich your life and boost your mood.

12. Listen To A Positive/Motivating Podcast

There are so many excellent podcasts out there. Usually, I choose to listen to a podcast while I’m getting ready in the morning or while I’m cooking dinner. Podcasts are a great personal development tool and I have learned a lot from adding this tip to my life.

13. Listen To Music

My son Isaiah loves music and loves to dance! No matter what kind of mood I’m in, when the music plays, we both can’t help but smile and dance. Music is therapeutic and fun!

14. Indulge In Your Favorite Show

Sometimes we all need to unwind for the evening relaxing on the couch with our fav show. There’s nothing wrong with unplugging and escaping life for a bit with a show you enjoy. I personally like reality tv or comedy shows/movies.

15. Go Out To Eat

I love cooking and making up new recipes. But about once a week, I need a break. Sometimes we order in but there is something about going out that is exciting.

It’s a nice change for family dinners. We get to try out a tasty new meal, meet new people, and see more of our town. And it’s a perfectly refreshing way to reset and give me a night off from cooking!

I hope you can take away at least one of these tips to try in your own life. Cheers to YOU!

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